One of the biggest things I’ve been doing is to deeply commit to my intentional habits over and over again.
It goes something like this,
Alarm goes off at 6.45am. I wake up into consciousness, although you wouldn’t know it from looking at me. I run a self check through my body.
Body reports back, “I need more sleep. Limbs are lead. Maybe, I’ll wake up more in a few minutes. If I do wake up in a few minutes time then I’ll get up. I’ll just lie here like I’m still asleep so I don’t wake myself up too much in case I want to go back to sleep.”
Arghh… the indecisiveness has kicked in within only a few seconds. And some very interesting creative logic too.
Brain says, “But I want to go to yoga. I’ll feel awesome after I have done it. If I don’t go I’ll feel really guilty.”
A force takes over my body and I find my legs sweeping in an arc and landing on the carpet.
“Okay, not quite sure how that happened.”
Pull on yoga clothes. Quick. Before I change my mind.
Grab my already full water bottle.
On the walk there I put sleep hair into a messy bun to hide the unbrushedness.
Decide not to breathe on anybody.
Will brush teeth when I get home.
If I linger in the flat too long I may not make it.
Someone should put the equivalent of a chastity belt on beds in the morning. As soon as you hit the alarm it should start rolling you gently off the bed. If you don’t swing your feet to the ground you end up in a heap on the floor. Then a blue force field should come and hover over the bed so I can’t get back in. It would also be wonderfully convenient if this force field made my bed too.
I know someone who sleeps in their fitness clothes so there is no chance for excuses in the morning.
I’ve contemplated it. I really have.
But I think that in the Australian summer I’d end up with some nasty fungal infection somewhere on my body from lack of oxygen to body parts. Also, my back and rib muscles seize up when I wear one of those exercise tops too long.
I’d wake up sweaty, infected and hyperventilating.
But, back to my walk to the yoga class.
4 minutes into my walk I’m feeling so happy to be alive.
I focus on how good it feels and expand the joy within me. This is really important to do.
I know my tendency. That’s why I get out of the flat super duper fast. If I leave decision making too long I crumble. I trick myself into getting to class.
After class I feel amazing. I feel like I have accomplished so much and it’s not even 9am. Again, I dwell on how good I feel and amplify it.
Now I am doing in charge on my life. Not the other way around and it’s great. Doing this difficult thing in the morning sets off the way I approach the rest of my day.
When I am in the energy flow of ‘doing in charge of my life’ I tackle the hardest and most important tasks first. I don’t distract myself by jumping onto social media. I commit deeply to the rest of the day. Stuff gets done that I thought I’d never get through so quickly.
My personal integrity is strong. So I know I’d feel terribly guilty if I didn’t go to yoga. I’ve committed to myself really strongly on purpose. It sets me up better for success.
It’s what gets me through when I waver.
It’s not just a habit, but a higher standard I hold myself to.
It is also about the kind of person I see my-Self as. I see myself as a successful person who makes decisions about important things and follows through. A fit and strong body is something I am deeply committed to after 16 years on the couch with illness. This is my goal but it is my habits that gets me there. Goals without a plan are just dreams. Not only have I developed a physical routine, but a mental one too.
The other thing that gets me through when I waver is the awesome feeling I’ll get after a class, which is why I amplify it. Then it is easy to remember that feeling when I need it for some motivation. This is my empowered story I tell myself. If you don’t understand the importance (backed by research) of an empowered story read my article here, Change Your Story To Change Your Life Two
I also follow my feelings.
I do things that I love, and that helps me access my joy. Yoga does that for me. If something gives you joy you will always want to do more of it. So, if your exercise routine is a drag I’d suggest changing it. Same with other parts of your life.
Now, just two weeks ago, I hurt myself in class. So I am doing frustrated. I could let it get the better of me and use this as an excuse to stop. But I’m not. Instead I have changed over to gentle walking, and will do so until I get better. I’d love to do hills or go hard, but I need to be patient.
There is always something you can do to keep to your habit or intention.
It’s about wanting the change in you more than the excuses.
What are you deeply committing to at the moment? Is it at the level you want? How could you do more of it?
What is your weak point? How can you trick yourself around it, or develop a better way to get it done?
Do you have a story around it? (mine is focusing on how great I’ll feel afterwards)
How is your personal integrity muscle? What standard do you hold yourself to?
Just around the corner is a challenge waiting for you. Say yes to it. The confidence you get from achieving it will spread to other parts of your life.
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